Rings

I feel like this has been a reoccurring theme in my life, the argument about engagement rings. Not only do I feel like they are not needed in a couple's life, but I also feel like the very idea of a ring can jeopardize the marriage before it even happens.

So much pressure has been built up about this little object sense we were all children. For the girl, it is the thought of being wowed with an expensive thing that show them how committed their man is. For the guy, it is the idea that you finally have the opportunity to sweep a woman off her feet. This is all a recipe for disaster.

It gets so bad sometimes while thinking about it that I start to liken it to Christmas. By Christmas I don't mean the good kind where you go and worship Jesus for hours and then thank all your friends and family for all their love. But the Christmas I would liken engagement rings to is the kind that causes men to go crazy trying to find the perfect gift for their loved one, and the kind that causes women to stampede Wal-Mart at four in the morning in November to find that gift that is on sale by five dollars.

Does this sound like a good thing to you? I feel like the marriage would be better without the stress of this "symbol". Instead, let me just ask the girl of my dreams to marry me and let her say yes...then we can plan the wedding without that shiny object to distract us.